Monika Aman
Monika Aman
Physical growth is a given, but psychological growth is a journey of encouragement. It's about embracing emotional maturity and understanding ourselves on a deeper level. It's about facing our fears, acknowledging our flaws, and most importantly, learning from our experiences. This journey leads to greater resilience, wisdom, and inner peace.
For people who have done the inner work and still meet the same patterns. Transcendency Mode™ works with the inner contradictions beneath them.
Transpersonal psychotherapist, published author, creator of Transcendency Mode™ &
Founder of Wholenessly
Who this is for
You have done the work. Therapy, books, courses, perhaps years of honest effort. You understand yourself well, and you can name your patterns. And still, in the moments that matter, you do what you did before.
This work is for people like you: thoughtful, capable, often responsible for others, and tired of understanding a problem they cannot seem to change.
It is not a quick fix, and it does not treat you as broken. It works with the contradiction underneath the pattern, and builds the capacity to meet it differently.
This work is for people like you: thoughtful, capable, often responsible for others, and tired of understanding a problem they cannot seem to change.
It is not a quick fix, and it does not treat you as broken. It works with the contradiction underneath the pattern, and builds the capacity to meet it differently.
This is not for you if
You are in acute crisis and need urgent support. Please contact a local crisis service or your doctor first.
You are looking for a diagnosis or treatment of a clinical condition.
You want fast results without changing how you relate to yourself.
If that is where you are, Wholenessly is still open to you, and you are welcome to return when the time is right.
With more than 20 years of experience and knowledge acquired
In my practice, I integrate the ancient wisdom of Ayurveda, an Indian system of medicine focused on achieving balance in physical and psychological health, with the transformative power of transpersonal psychology, the healing potential of yoga, and insights from practical business experience. This holistic approach aims to promote balance and well-being in both body and mind.
On the edge of change, my mind was full of past regrets and worries about the future. For years, I'd been stuck in a cycle of just getting by, always on edge, always worried. A successful business, an exemplary family - all the things I dreamed of, but they weren't really mine.
But this time felt different.
But this time felt different.
I closed my eyes and took a deep breath. I felt something shift inside me. The weight of what others wanted and dreamed for me melted away, and I found myself giving in to the simple beauty of the present.
It was like I'd stepped into a new world free from the limits of the life I knew.
It was like I'd stepped into a new world free from the limits of the life I knew.
The thought hit me that real change meant going beyond who I am now—my usual ways of thinking, acting, and feeling. This idea scared me but excited me, too, ideas and chances began to flow.
That's when I came up with the concept of Transcendency Mode™.
That's when I came up with the concept of Transcendency Mode™.
The Transcendency Mode™
isn't some magic power or spiritual goal but an essential change in how we see things. At this precise moment, I could shape a new reality for myself. Change comes from being aware right now, and our most significant journey isn't about conquering the world but mastering ourselves.
isn't some magic power or spiritual goal but an essential change in how we see things. At this precise moment, I could shape a new reality for myself. Change comes from being aware right now, and our most significant journey isn't about conquering the world but mastering ourselves.
Monika brings a rich and multidimensional approach to personal transformation and growth, combining diverse disciplines to create a truly holistic perspective. Her career stands at the intersection of psychology, education, business, and spirituality, offering clients an unparalleled opportunity to achieve clarity, balance, and purpose.
Master’s Degree in Semiotics and Pedagogy – University of Tartu
Studies in Finance and Marketing – Estonian Business School
Certified Ayurveda Therapist – Specialized training in holistic healing practices
Certified Yoga Teacher – Extensive experience in mind-body integration
Transpersonal Psychotherapist – Trained at SACH International and actively engaged with EUROTAS
Inspirations and Learnings from Renowned Experts:
- René Roussillon
- Gabor Maté
- Alain Gibaud
- Vassilis Kapsambelis
- Jean-Michel Kinodo
- Gilbert Dyatkin
- Jure Biechonski
- Aneesha Dillon
Influenced by Osho’s Teachings – A spiritual dimension that complements her therapeutic approach
My mission
Is to give you the choice and courage to be your true self, not to depend on other people and circumstances, but to find support within yourself and create the life you want through your actions, showing you that everything is possible for you in this world. Nothing is wrong with you. Something is unresolved.
Where Transcendency Mode™ works
You want to rest, but stillness feels unsafe. You are tired, yet you cannot stop.
{1} Regulation
You want closeness, but you need to be right first. Arguments end in distance instead of repair.
{2} Repair
You want to say no, but you fear losing love. Saying yes is quietly costing you yourself.
{3} Boundaries
You built the success, the business, the family, but it doesn't feel like yours.
{4} Leadership & purpose
You know who you are, but the version you show can’t be sustained. The tiredness after a day where nothing went wrong.
{5} Presentation
Therapy is like nurturing a garden within
yourself
Just as a garden needs care to flourish, therapy helps us weather life's storms and bloom into a wellspring of inspiration and strength. It's a journey of resilience, self-awareness, and transformation.
We embrace patience and love to cultivate our inner landscape into a sanctuary teeming with the blossoming beauty of personal growth.Like a garden offering peace and serenity, a psychologically mature person emanates a sense of inspiration and groundedness, enriching the lives of those around them.
Principles of my Therapeutic Work
{CONFIDENTIALITY}
I do not disclose session content or information about you, nor do I use session materials for publications or references in my work. This is the basis of trust and security between us.
I work only with those who have independently decided to seek psychological help. You choose the topic and regulate the depth to which you are ready to dive. You decide on the end of the therapeutic process.
{VOLUNTARINESS AND RECIPROCITY}
{STABILITY OF THE ANALYTICAL SPACE}
We agree on the number, duration, time and cost of sessions, define the rules for the end of the interaction. My attitude towards you remains unchanged throughout.
{COMPETENCY}
I am constantly upgrading my qualifications, regularly attend supervision, and respect personal and professional boundaries. You will not encounter discrimination, exploitation or abuse of your trust in sessions with me.
{RESPONSIBILITY}
I am responsible for the boundaries of the method and guarantee a safe, stable therapeutic space for you, and I assess my ability to help based on professional competencies rather than personal views and feelings.
{NEUTRALITY}
I do not judge or criticize you, nor do I expect any level of “worked through”. I do not grade or assign grades, nor do I give homework assignments. I respect your choices and do not impose my opinion.
{NON-INTRUSIVE}
I give you the opportunity to go about your story with restraint and without trying to satisfy your own curiosity or achieve personal goals.
WHAT IS THE Transcendency Mode™?
It's not a quick fix but a profound, life-altering experience that fosters enduring personal growth. It empowers you to release limiting beliefs and destructive patterns, igniting clarity and purpose for a meaningful, authentic life.
Transcendency Mode™ is a psychological and contemplative framework for emotional maturity and relational integrity, created by transpersonal psychotherapist Monika Aman.
It starts from one observation: people rarely lack insight. They lack the capacity to act on it. Beneath repeated patterns, in love, work and leadership, sits an unresolved contradiction: wanting rest but fearing stillness, wanting closeness but needing to be right, wanting to lead but needing to control. Transcendency Mode™ makes that contradiction visible and builds the inner capacity to hold it without reacting, withdrawing or performing.
The method integrates reflective psychology, nervous-system awareness, symbolic meaning-making and relational repair. Its principle is capacity before character: we don't demand maturity from a system that cannot yet hold it.
In a world where output is cheap and attention is automated, coherence becomes the scarce human quality. Transcendency Mode™ is a practice of that coherence: alignment between awareness, capacity and action.
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Private work with Monika — by application
I take a small number of private clients each season. If you have done the work and still meet the same pattern, join the list and I will write to you when a place opens.
Why Do People Struggle to See the Real Cause?
Our deepest emotions and beliefs often stem from subconscious experiences, early life events, and societal pressures. The human mind protects itself by hiding painful memories, making it challenging to identify the real causes.
Transcendency Mode™ Therapy facilitates uncovering these hidden roots through a gentle, compassionate approach. By creating a safe space for reflection and exploration, it helps you peel back layers, revealing the true sources of your emotions and beliefs.
How have my Clients' Lives Changed after Receiving Transcendency Mode™
F.A.Q.
If you find yourself struggling with personal challenges or emotional distress, therapy can be a game-changer. It's like having a skilled guide to help you navigate life's twists and turns, providing insight, understanding, and practical tools to empower you.
Therapy isn't just for major crises - it's a space for personal growth and self-discovery. It's about diving deep into your thoughts and emotions, understanding your patterns, and creating a roadmap for a brighter, more fulfilling future.
Maybe you've been feeling stuck, like you're treading water in a sea of uncertainty. Or perhaps you've been dealing with nagging worries and fears that just won't go away. If stress, anxiety, or difficult emotions are getting in the way of your happiness, therapy offers a safe, supportive environment to explore these challenges and cultivate new ways of coping and thriving.
It's worth considering therapy if you're facing major life changes, relationship struggles, or simply yearn for a deeper understanding of yourself. The beauty of therapy is that it's tailored to your unique needs, providing a space where you can express yourself without judgment and work towards personal growth.
Remember, therapy isn't a sign of weakness - it's a testament to your resilience and willingness to invest in your well-being. It's a powerful step toward creating a brighter, more empowered you.
Don't undervalue the potential for positive change that therapy can bring. As you take this step, you're choosing to prioritize your mental and emotional health, and that's truly empowering.
So yes, therapy could be exactly what you need to spark a transformation in your life. It's an investment in your well-being, opening doors to self-discovery, growth, and a more vibrant, fulfilling future.
Therapy isn't just for major crises - it's a space for personal growth and self-discovery. It's about diving deep into your thoughts and emotions, understanding your patterns, and creating a roadmap for a brighter, more fulfilling future.
Maybe you've been feeling stuck, like you're treading water in a sea of uncertainty. Or perhaps you've been dealing with nagging worries and fears that just won't go away. If stress, anxiety, or difficult emotions are getting in the way of your happiness, therapy offers a safe, supportive environment to explore these challenges and cultivate new ways of coping and thriving.
It's worth considering therapy if you're facing major life changes, relationship struggles, or simply yearn for a deeper understanding of yourself. The beauty of therapy is that it's tailored to your unique needs, providing a space where you can express yourself without judgment and work towards personal growth.
Remember, therapy isn't a sign of weakness - it's a testament to your resilience and willingness to invest in your well-being. It's a powerful step toward creating a brighter, more empowered you.
Don't undervalue the potential for positive change that therapy can bring. As you take this step, you're choosing to prioritize your mental and emotional health, and that's truly empowering.
So yes, therapy could be exactly what you need to spark a transformation in your life. It's an investment in your well-being, opening doors to self-discovery, growth, and a more vibrant, fulfilling future.
In the world of Transcendency, the most powerful tool is the genuine conversation and connection between you and your therapist. Together, you'll delve into the depths of self-awareness, exploring the roots of your life challenges, and empowering you to become the chief architect of your own story.
This journey isn't about instant fixes or magic; it's about the hard, yet rewarding work that you can't delegate to anyone else.
As you navigate this process, you may encounter tough emotions like pain, sadness, or frustration.
There will be moments when you're stepping outside your comfort zone and reevaluating your relationships.
But by embracing this path and walking it with determination, you'll uncover the incredible value of psychotherapy, ultimately leading to a more meaningful and fulfilling life.
THE STAGES OF Transcendency Mode™
1 stage. First step
This phase marks the beginning of our journey together.
It's the pivotal moment when you make the significant and courageous decision to seek counseling—a crucial step towards self-discovery.
We'll work together to set up our initial meeting—a pivotal moment in your commitment to personal growth and well-being. I eagerly anticipate the opportunity to connect with you as we embark on this journey together.
2 stage. Getting to know
In our first meeting, we'll talk about the issue you're facing, understand where it comes from, and come up with a plan to address it. We'll set clear goals and decide how long our sessions will be and what steps we'll take. Even after this first meeting, you'll start to feel better and gain the guidance you need.
Stage 3. The process itself
We agree about aour framewirk individually
Stage 4. Completion of therapy
After the main course of the process, we'll also schedule support meetings as needed, providing ongoing individual support to ensure your continued progress and well-being.
This journey isn't about instant fixes or magic; it's about the hard, yet rewarding work that you can't delegate to anyone else.
As you navigate this process, you may encounter tough emotions like pain, sadness, or frustration.
There will be moments when you're stepping outside your comfort zone and reevaluating your relationships.
But by embracing this path and walking it with determination, you'll uncover the incredible value of psychotherapy, ultimately leading to a more meaningful and fulfilling life.
THE STAGES OF Transcendency Mode™
1 stage. First step
This phase marks the beginning of our journey together.
It's the pivotal moment when you make the significant and courageous decision to seek counseling—a crucial step towards self-discovery.
We'll work together to set up our initial meeting—a pivotal moment in your commitment to personal growth and well-being. I eagerly anticipate the opportunity to connect with you as we embark on this journey together.
2 stage. Getting to know
In our first meeting, we'll talk about the issue you're facing, understand where it comes from, and come up with a plan to address it. We'll set clear goals and decide how long our sessions will be and what steps we'll take. Even after this first meeting, you'll start to feel better and gain the guidance you need.
Stage 3. The process itself
We agree about aour framewirk individually
Stage 4. Completion of therapy
After the main course of the process, we'll also schedule support meetings as needed, providing ongoing individual support to ensure your continued progress and well-being.
The effectiveness of our work relies on setting clear therapy goals together collaboratively.
- Integrated Approach: Unlike traditional coaching and therapy, we blend mindfulness, psychological insights, and transformative practices to create a holistic experience.
- Focus on Consciousness Expansion: Our unique emphasis on elevating your awareness allows you to transcend limiting beliefs and unlock your full potential.
- Sustainable Growth Framework: We don't just focus on short-term fixes; we equip you with tools and strategies to maintain long-lasting change in your life.
- Focus on Consciousness Expansion: Our unique emphasis on elevating your awareness allows you to transcend limiting beliefs and unlock your full potential.
- Sustainable Growth Framework: We don't just focus on short-term fixes; we equip you with tools and strategies to maintain long-lasting change in your life.
Private work is by application. Join the list and Monika will write when a place opens.
The duration of the meeting is up to 75 minutes (60 minutes basic time, 15 minutes for summaries before basic time and after).
The initial meeting is 75-90 minutes.
The initial meeting is 75-90 minutes.
Information fromsessions is strictly confidential and may not be shared with third parties.
It is possible to experience short-term fluctuations in your emotional state during therapy, and this can be an indicator of its effectiveness. While it's normal to have ups and downs, these fluctuations should not be a cause for concern.
During the course of therapy, clients may become aware of conflicting emotions, often connected to the activation of mental defense mechanisms. These defenses typically serve to minimize negative or traumatic experiences, allowing individuals to navigate challenging situations. However, they can also obstruct meaningful change, maintaining the status quo at the expense of addressing underlying problems.
Transformation typically occurs in stages: initially, the client may not acknowledge a personal problem but instead bring forth difficult circumstances or symptoms. As therapy progresses, they might recognize a link between their difficulties and aspects of their personality, choices, and behaviors. Subsequently, the client may decide to take active steps toward change.
At a later stage, protective mechanisms might be aimed at preserving the client's self-esteem and their perceptions of themselves and the world. This often involves resistance, manifesting as reluctance to attend, postpone, or skip appointments—an indication that fundamental aspects underlying personality issues have been touched upon.
It's important to anticipate and address resistance openly and without bias. Strategies to prevent the impact of resistance might include addressing missed sessions with fines, avoiding telephone consultations, and spacing sessions no more than two weeks apart. These measures can help maintain progress and ensure the therapy remains effective.
Can counseling be ineective?
Counseling may be ineffective when individuals have difficulty opening up, harbor distrust, or are prone to doubt. For some clients, transitioning into the therapeutic process can be significantly delayed. Additionally, a portion of clients may unconsciously resist all forms of help, including psychological assistance. These factors can impede the effectiveness of counseling, and it may be necessary to address these barriers before progress can be made.
Transformation typically occurs in stages: initially, the client may not acknowledge a personal problem but instead bring forth difficult circumstances or symptoms. As therapy progresses, they might recognize a link between their difficulties and aspects of their personality, choices, and behaviors. Subsequently, the client may decide to take active steps toward change.
At a later stage, protective mechanisms might be aimed at preserving the client's self-esteem and their perceptions of themselves and the world. This often involves resistance, manifesting as reluctance to attend, postpone, or skip appointments—an indication that fundamental aspects underlying personality issues have been touched upon.
It's important to anticipate and address resistance openly and without bias. Strategies to prevent the impact of resistance might include addressing missed sessions with fines, avoiding telephone consultations, and spacing sessions no more than two weeks apart. These measures can help maintain progress and ensure the therapy remains effective.
Can counseling be ineective?
Counseling may be ineffective when individuals have difficulty opening up, harbor distrust, or are prone to doubt. For some clients, transitioning into the therapeutic process can be significantly delayed. Additionally, a portion of clients may unconsciously resist all forms of help, including psychological assistance. These factors can impede the effectiveness of counseling, and it may be necessary to address these barriers before progress can be made.
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